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January 30, 2007

Living with Risk

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Life is full of risk. Some people believe just getting out of bed some days can be risky. To "risk" is to take a chance on two very different outcomes -- winning or losing. The most obvious example of an investment that reduces risk would be the purchase of insurance where the buyer pays a guaranteed amount, and is "protected" from a potential loss -- usually a loss that would put a significant dent in the pocketbook. Yet, I know people who don't believe in insurance. Gambling is a risk increasing investment, because although the money being risked would yield a possible large return, the odds are low and the gambler has the potential to lose it all. I know people who don't believe in this either.

Some people make a living as professional risk assessors, combining the probability of an event occurring with the impact that event would have. Adam Sandler assessed risk for a living in the movie "Along Came Polly", starring Ben Stiller, Jennifer Aniston and Rodolfo, the blind ferret. He even carried it over into his personal life to the nth degree and risked losing the woman he was interesting in getting to know better. I believe risk is part of the upside journey. How else can you determine your Unlimited Possibilities? Are you a risk taker or a risk avoider -- and why?

http://www.alongcamepolly.com

January 29, 2007

Comfort Food


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When my husband and I eat meals together, I eat healthier. When he is out of town I tend to cut corners on my diet, reaching for whatever is closest based on the emotion I am feeling at the time. I'm a foodie (translation - someone who loves to eat vs. someone who eats to live) and I especially enjoy what I refer to as comfort food -- those menu items that remind us of a special time and place in our lives.

On the top of my list are two hot dog joints -- Yocco's and Weinerschnitzel. Because I can only have a Yocco's doggie when I go home to visit my parents, you better believe it's one of the first and last places I eat. (Actually, I enjoy their food sooooo much that I think I would even camp out in their parking lot if they let me.) Since I currently live in California, when Jim travels, my only option is Weinerschnitzel. I usually sneak off for my usual chili cheese dog with a side order of french fries and a 1/2 pepsi, 1/2 diet pepsi soft drink. (If I'm feeling really guilty, I'll have 100% diet.)

Like I said earlier, comfort food is the food that remind us of a special time and place in our lives. My mother didn't make much money as a nurse when we were kids. Every two weeks, on the Sunday after she ended her shift, she would take us to Weinerschnitzel for dinner and laughs. It was our special place.

When my grandmother was sick a few years ago, my sister would travel from Philadelphia and I would travel from New Jersey to visit her in the nursing home. One day, we were having a conversation about the trip in and I mentioned stopping by Weinerschnitzel on the way. (I had convinced myself that it was because it was off the Route 78 exit, but I don't know if that really made a difference.) She laughed and said she had done the same thing!

We all have places and events in our lives that evoke certain memories of which we are grateful. Comfort food is what helps me go back in time. What food memory brings back your biggest upside moment? Or the time when you were most grateful? I'm hungry just thinking about it!

January 25, 2007

Eating "Right"


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Food gives our bodies energy. We need energy in order to perform to the best of our ability which is why proper diet and nutrition are important to living a healthy life. The same is true with our minds. What we feed our thoughts day in and day out will create our reality. Our minds react to what they see over and over again.

In high school, I remember my mother saying, "Garbage in. Garbage out." At the time, I didn't know what she meant. Today, not only do I understand where she was coming from...I have become my mother! One example that comes to mind is when I visited a friend in Washington, DC several years ago. She wanted to stay up and watch a show that was very popular at the time but it wasn't the most soul-filling intellectual choice on television. I never saw the show and didn't own a television at the time and I still knew it wasn't food for the spirit. So I told her I was going to bed. When she asked why, I said, "Garbage in. Garbage out." She looked shocked and still teases me about this episode today.

Feeding your body properly is just as important as feeding your spirit. What have you dined on today?

January 24, 2007

2007 Rising Star Award

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Today is the day that I will be honored with a 2007 Woman of Excellence award from the National Association of Female Executives. As one of 5 national awardees, I am still in awe. As this year’s Rising Star, I was chosen as an entrepreneur in business for less than 5 years who demonstrates vision and creativity and helps other women.
The award will be presented at the Executive Women Leading the Way conference after the Equal Voice reception.

In my role as the Chief Enthusiasm Officer of Upside Thinking, Inc., it's my goal to transform lives by helping others determine what they want so they can achieve extraordinary results in their personal and professional lives. I can often be heard telling people that I teach professionals how to create a clear leadership vision, an increased sphere of influence so they can make more money. I've had the opportunity to inspire thousands of people who've attend my speaking engagements or have hired me for one-on-one coaching session. I'm the leadership diva, helping people see the unlimited possibilities in both their professional and personal lives. I equip others with tools that will not only help them set goals but utilize their strengths, turning their dreams into realities.

My success stems from believing in what I do, possessing a clear leadership vision, and the wonderful support of those around me—my husband, family, friends, and my upside impact partners. I couldn't do it alone.

As you examine your upside journey, what enables you to reach the be successful in what you do?

January 22, 2007

Making Mistakes

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Get over it. Perfection just isn't an option. Making mistakes is part of life. Growing up, I didn't want to believe it so I fought hard to be perfect. Within the last few years, I've made the decision to surrender. I am not perfect. There -- I said it. I make mistakes. I remember thinking, "Whew! The pressure's off me now that my secret's out." But, the reality is that each and every one of us screws up at some point. No one is error free. We all trip and fall down. The upside question is, "Do you get back up again with ease?"

"You're going to make mistakes in life. It's what you do after the mistakes that counts."
Brandi Chastain (1968 - ) American soccer player, Olympic champion
www.itsnotaboutthebra.com

January 21, 2007

The Center of the Universe

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Oh, the joys of living in Southern California! It's January and I still see the sun every day! Today, Jim and I ran errands and wandered around outside. While the wind was blowing, we were grateful to bask in the warmth of the good 'ol California Sunshine! It is one of the things on my list of what I am most grateful for.

The Sun is the star at the center of our solar system and planet Earth orbits the Sun. It serves as the main source of energy for living things on Earth, giving off heat and light.

Questions for your upside journey....What is the one thing that you hold most important in your life? What lies at the center of your universe and gives you energy? What do your thoughts and decisions revolve around every day?


January 19, 2007

Girl Nurture

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My friend Joan Rudder-Ward owns a company called the Image Maker. Anyone who meets Joan knows that she's special and not just because she's a natural leader who cares about everyone she meets. It's the way she carries herself and the torch for the causes that are closest to her heart -- especially the plight of young girls today. Last year, Joan was recognized nationally as the 2006 Community Service award winner for the National Association of Female Executives. One of her other ventures besides the Image Maker is Girl Nurture, which she started as a resource to help fund scholarships for her self-esteem workshops for adolescent girls and young women.

The vision for Girl Nurture is to offer products that will nurture girls and women - body, soul, and spirit. Her products are meant to nurture fun and creativity So when you purchase her products, you are helping to make a positive difference in the lives of the girls and young woman they serve.

Visit her at www.girl-nurture.com and tell her I said "hi"!

January 16, 2007

Losing It "All"

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How would you know if you "had it all"? What would it be like to lose it "all"? Let's look at the story of Jack Whittaker.

Jack was the president of Diversified Enterprises Construction, a successful multi-million dollar contracting firm in West Virginia. On December 25, 2002, he purchased the winning Powerball ticket at a supermarket in where he had stopped for a deli breakfast sandwich, winning $315 million dollars! At the time it was the largest jackpot ever won by a single winning ticket in the United States. Good 'ol Jack took his winnings in a lump sum of $113 million after taxes and donated 10% to charity. Most people would say that Jack had it all.

Fast forward four years.....he's been robbed, arrested for drunk driving twice, arrested for assault, both his grandaughter and grandaughter's friend died of drug overdoses, he's been sued several times and now Jack's broke. Most people would say that Jack lost it "all".

But, did Jack ever really "have it all"? And, what happened along the way? Did he truly lose it "all"?

I can't speak for Jack but I believe that having it all is living an upside life filled with gratitude. And, whether I earned $315 million dollars or $315,000, that would never change. How about you?

January 15, 2007

I Have a Dream...

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Martin Luther King, Jr., was a Baptist minister who pushed for racial equality in the 1950's and the 1960's. On August 28, 1963, MLK Jr. organized a march in Washington, DC. He gave his "I Have a Dream" speech standing on the steps of the Lincoln Memorial. We celebrate his legacy today and recall his powerful talk which is credited with mobilizing supporters of desegregation and prompting the 1964 Civil Rights Act.

If you've never seen the words to Martin Luther King's glorious "I Have a Dream" speech, here they are......

"I am happy to join with you today in what will go down in history as the greatest demonstration for freedom in the history of our nation.

Five score years ago, a great American, in whose symbolic shadow we stand today, signed the Emancipation Proclamation. This momentous decree came as a great beacon light of hope to millions of Negro slaves who had been seared in the flames of withering injustice. It came as a joyous daybreak to end the long night of their captivity.

But one hundred years later, the Negro still is not free. One hundred years later, the life of the Negro is still sadly crippled by the manacles of segregation and the chains of discrimination. One hundred years later, the Negro lives on a lonely island of poverty in the midst of a vast ocean of material prosperity. One hundred years later, the Negro is still languishing in the corners of American society and finds himself an exile in his own land. So we have come here today to dramatize a shameful condition.

In a sense we have come to our nation's capital to cash a check. When the architects of our republic wrote the magnificent words of the Constitution and the Declaration of Independence, they were signing a promissory note to which every American was to fall heir. This note was a promise that all men, yes, black men as well as white men, would be guaranteed the unalienable rights of life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.

It is obvious today that America has defaulted on this promissory note insofar as her citizens of color are concerned. Instead of honoring this sacred obligation, America has given the Negro people a bad check, a check which has come back marked "insufficient funds." But we refuse to believe that the bank of justice is bankrupt. We refuse to believe that there are insufficient funds in the great vaults of opportunity of this nation. So we have come to cash this check — a check that will give us upon demand the riches of freedom and the security of justice. We have also come to this hallowed spot to remind America of the fierce urgency of now. This is no time to engage in the luxury of cooling off or to take the tranquilizing drug of gradualism. Now is the time to make real the promises of democracy. Now is the time to rise from the dark and desolate valley of segregation to the sunlit path of racial justice. Now is the time to lift our nation from the quick sands of racial injustice to the solid rock of brotherhood. Now is the time to make justice a reality for all of God's children.

It would be fatal for the nation to overlook the urgency of the moment. This sweltering summer of the Negro's legitimate discontent will not pass until there is an invigorating autumn of freedom and equality. Nineteen sixty-three is not an end, but a beginning. Those who hope that the Negro needed to blow off steam and will now be content will have a rude awakening if the nation returns to business as usual. There will be neither rest nor tranquility in America until the Negro is granted his citizenship rights. The whirlwinds of revolt will continue to shake the foundations of our nation until the bright day of justice emerges.

But there is something that I must say to my people who stand on the warm threshold which leads into the palace of justice. In the process of gaining our rightful place we must not be guilty of wrongful deeds. Let us not seek to satisfy our thirst for freedom by drinking from the cup of bitterness and hatred.

We must forever conduct our struggle on the high plane of dignity and discipline. We must not allow our creative protest to degenerate into physical violence. Again and again we must rise to the majestic heights of meeting physical force with soul force. The marvelous new militancy which has engulfed the Negro community must not lead us to distrust of all white people, for many of our white brothers, as evidenced by their presence here today, have come to realize that their destiny is tied up with our destiny and their freedom is inextricably bound to our freedom. We cannot walk alone.

As we walk, we must make the pledge that we shall march ahead. We cannot turn back. There are those who are asking the devotees of civil rights, "When will you be satisfied?" We can never be satisfied as long as the Negro is the victim of the unspeakable horrors of police brutality. We can never be satisfied, as long as our bodies, heavy with the fatigue of travel, cannot gain lodging in the motels of the highways and the hotels of the cities. We can never be satisfied as long as a Negro in Mississippi cannot vote and a Negro in New York believes he has nothing for which to vote. No, no, we are not satisfied, and we will not be satisfied until justice rolls down like waters and righteousness like a mighty stream.

I am not unmindful that some of you have come here out of great trials and tribulations. Some of you have come fresh from narrow jail cells. Some of you have come from areas where your quest for freedom left you battered by the storms of persecution and staggered by the winds of police brutality. You have been the veterans of creative suffering. Continue to work with the faith that unearned suffering is redemptive.

Go back to Mississippi, go back to Alabama, go back to South Carolina, go back to Georgia, go back to Louisiana, go back to the slums and ghettos of our northern cities, knowing that somehow this situation can and will be changed. Let us not wallow in the valley of despair.

I say to you today, my friends, so even though we face the difficulties of today and tomorrow, I still have a dream. It is a dream deeply rooted in the American dream.

I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed: "We hold these truths to be self-evident: that all men are created equal."

I have a dream that one day on the red hills of Georgia the sons of former slaves and the sons of former slave owners will be able to sit down together at the table of brotherhood.

I have a dream that one day even the state of Mississippi, a state sweltering with the heat of injustice, sweltering with the heat of oppression, will be transformed into an oasis of freedom and justice.

I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character.

I have a dream today.

I have a dream that one day, down in Alabama, with its vicious racists, with its governor having his lips dripping with the words of interposition and nullification; one day right there in Alabama, little black boys and black girls will be able to join hands with little white boys and white girls as sisters and brothers.

I have a dream today.

I have a dream that one day every valley shall be exalted, every hill and mountain shall be made low, the rough places will be made plain, and the crooked places will be made straight, and the glory of the Lord shall be revealed, and all flesh shall see it together.

This is our hope. This is the faith that I go back to the South with. With this faith we will be able to hew out of the mountain of despair a stone of hope. With this faith we will be able to transform the jangling discords of our nation into a beautiful symphony of brotherhood. With this faith we will be able to work together, to pray together, to struggle together, to go to jail together, to stand up for freedom together, knowing that we will be free one day.

This will be the day when all of God's children will be able to sing with a new meaning, "My country, 'tis of thee, sweet land of liberty, of thee I sing. Land where my fathers died, land of the pilgrim's pride, from every mountainside, let freedom ring."

And if America is to be a great nation this must become true. So let freedom ring from the prodigious hilltops of New Hampshire. Let freedom ring from the mighty mountains of New York. Let freedom ring from the heightening Alleghenies of Pennsylvania!

Let freedom ring from the snowcapped Rockies of Colorado!

Let freedom ring from the curvaceous slopes of California!

But not only that; let freedom ring from Stone Mountain of Georgia!

Let freedom ring from Lookout Mountain of Tennessee!

Let freedom ring from every hill and molehill of Mississippi. From every mountainside, let freedom ring.

And when this happens, When we allow freedom to ring, when we let it ring from every village and every hamlet, from every state and every city, we will be able to speed up that day when all of God's children, black men and white men, Jews and Gentiles, Protestants and Catholics, will be able to join hands and sing in the words of the old Negro spiritual, "Free at last! free at last! thank God Almighty, we are free at last!""

January 14, 2007

The Skrumps


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I'm a huge fan of Jim Henson's work. While I was an overachiever in school and primarily an "A" student, I just couldn't find my creative voice. (I'm happy to say we've recently reunited and in certain aspects would've even be able to give 'ol JH a run for his money.) I was probably one of the few kids in school who almost failed art class. I would watch his programming in awe, intrigued at how he made things come alive. Even today, whenever I go to Disney, I never miss going on one of the muppet rides.

Since death of Jim Henson, puppeteer and creator of the muppets, the company has experienced much transition, including the sale of the muppets to Disney. Within the last several years, the Henson family has been looking for a new family of characters to bring to life. John Chandler from the Jim Henson company recently created "The Skrumps", 100's of colorful, funny, alien-like characters. A skrump is defined as a buddy, a pal, a companion. There's Lazy Louie, Raisins, Skrumpy and many, many more. My favorite is "Wishbone", not because he loves himself but because he is a dreamer.

Sometimes it takes characters like the Skrumps to tap into a special part of our brain that will give us a fresh perspective. I encourage you to find places you can go to nourish your soul and foster your dreams. Remember, the upside journey is one of unlimited possibilities!

If you want more information about the Skrumps, check out www.henson.com.

January 13, 2007

UIP's -- Upside Impact Partners


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I'm often heard talking about the importance of creating strategic partnerships. Having individuals who understand your vision and values for your business and personal life can be as powerful as having your own personal genie who utters the words, "Your wish is my command" daily . The old saying, "Two heads are better than one" refers the reality that challenges are often solved more easily by two people working together than by one working alone.

The same can be said for living out your passion. (Of course, it's important that these partners are also authentic connectors.....something I won't get into in detail, as you'll have to wait for the book Ursula C. Mentjes and I are writing to be released in the Spring.) There is power in numbers. If two or more people understand a concept, the forward motion of that idea has a greater chance to move ahead than if it were coming from only one person. Additionally, that forward motion can build momentum if there are even more individuals supporting that vision.

So, then, what is an upside impact partner? You already know that living on the upside is about finding the unlimited possibilities in your life and impact can be defined as "the power of making a strong, immediate connection". Most businesses look to make an impact on their customers and it is often done through the creation of a relationship using some form of emotional attachment. Upside impact partners aren't passive, they have a noticeable effect on the meeting of your mission in life. They are your cheerleader and confidate wrapped up into one. An upside impact partner or UIP is someone who understands your purpose and passion, your vision and values and carries your relationship with them in order to help you achieve all that you've envisioned for your life. UIP's are the people who not only believe in your amazing success but can be found standing in the bleachers, yelling, "You can do it!" even when you're not feeling like forward-thinking today.

I challenge you to make a list from 1 - 10 of all of the people who have made an impact in your life. How many of the people are still in your life? How many of them are fully aware of what you want from your life today? Do you have any UIP's currently helping you live out your vision? If you're having trouble thinking of someone, make a list of the 5 people who you'd like to recruit to be UIP's to help you achieve your dreams and the dates of when you will contact them. Remember, action, not goals, creates results. Best of luck on your upside journey!

January 12, 2007

Upside Quote for the Day....

"Greatness is a matter of a moment. Goodness is the work of a lifetime."
- Sri Chinmoy

January 06, 2007

Dream of a Lifetime

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My parents just left after a week long visit from Pennsylvania. The weather couldn't have been better as we drove throughout Southern California like tourists taking in all of the sights. One of the highlights of their trip was the opportunity to see the Rose Parade. Since my mother was a little girl, she had always dreamed of being there watching the floats in all of their splendor pass by.

The Tournament of Roses Parade dates back to 1890. In that year, members of the Pasadena Valley Hunt Club decorated their carriages with flowers to celebrate the ripening of the orange crop in California. They were former residents of the East and Midwest eager to showcase their new home's mild winter weather, telling the world about "paradise". (My parents certainly felt like they were in paradise with the mild temperatures and California sunshine!)

During the next few years, the festival expanded to include marching bands and motorized floats. The Rose Parade’s elaborate floats now feature high-tech computerized animation and exotic natural materials from around the world and take nearly a year to construct.

This January 1st, however, it was about experiencing the magic of festivities and fulfilling the dream of a lifetime. I will never forget my mother's face as she sat, bundled up, staring in awe as the floats slowly hummed along. I will never forget her excitement as she grabbed onto my arm in the staging area, as we both tried to guess what plants and fruits were used to create these wonder-ful objects.

What is your dream of a lifetime?

January 04, 2007

The New Year is Here!


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Two Thousand and Seven ~ The New Year is here with the chance of a lifetime. Every January, people around the United States believe they are given the chance to re-invent themselves through one of the traditions of the season, the making of New Year's resolutions. This tradition dates back to the early Babylonians where the most popular resolution was to return borrowed farm equipment. Popular modern resolutions often include the promise to lose weight, quit smoking or achieve career advancement.

In reality, we are all given the chance to reinvent ourselves every morning. The beginning of the New Year shouldn’t be the only time to make promises to ourselves to improve our lives. We should wake up every morning and view the day as an opportunity to make a difference – a challenge to be better than we’ve ever been before.

Throughout this month of January, I encourage you to examine the past, celebrate the present and look to the future, knowing it will be amazing. I always purchase a journal and celebrate the past year by listing all that I have – all of my talents, knowledge gained and lessons learned. It is important to acknowledge and appreciate what we have before we can ever ask for more. Then, I challenge myself, just as I challenge you, to make a list of what you want or expect to happen in 2007. Please note that if 2006 wasn’t as prosperous as you would have liked, take heart in the many lessons you’ve learned from your experiences on your upside journey. May you resolve any unhappiness with the past in order to purposefully and passionately move forward….for 2007 will be your best year ever!